Yes I know it sounds crazy. How could that person who is making your life hell right now offer anything other than irritation, and annoyance, and stress? All they’re doing is pushing your buttons repeatedly, right? But here’s the thing.
Nobody can push your buttons if you don’t have any buttons to push. Which of course means that it’s not just about them. It’s about you too.
The truth is, all that button pushing is serving a purpose. It’s bringing something hidden within you to the surface. A part of you that is trying to get your attention, a part of you that you can now choose to see and change.
And if you choose to address it, you’ve taken the first step onto your path to freedom.
Whether the next step is a forward or backward one depends on whether you follow up that choice with a reaction or a response. Only one takes you forward because only one will be an action you take because you want to. The other will be something you’ll feel you have to do.
If you react, you’ll likely do something along the lines of walking away, or leaving a relationship, or quitting your job. Anything that removes that person from your life – the have to decision.
Except, of course, you can’t remove yourself from your life, so chances are someone else will appear in the future who makes you feel exactly the same way.
Responding is a whole other ball game. Responding allows you to look at what’s going on, to acknowledge your part, and to begin to look at what within you wants to come out in order to be released, transmuted, and changed. It’s the want to decision.
And instead of that person feeling like an ogre, you begin to see that they are offering you an opportunity to change something about you that you’re ready to change. They’re throwing light on a part of you that’s been hidden in the dark. And if you’re willing to work with it, that person who appears to be on a mission to decrease your happiness becomes the catalyst to increase it!
In fact, you could say they’ve become your path to freedom!