October is all about Soul Expansion, and Soul Expansion is all about seeing more of who we are so that we can be more of who we are. We started the month off by looking at the well-known quote Seeing is Believing to discover if we need to see to believe, believe to see, or if there’s something more going on.
My own approach went from an initial Catholic one of believing without seeing (I took ‘Blessed are those who have not seen and yet believe’ very seriously as a child), to a firm scientific view of having to see something with my own eyes to believe it. And even then, I wouldn’t necessarily accept it, (Ahhh, those teen years!) to how I understand it today. That the willingness to see my life differently changes it completely – and makes it so much easier to let go of any limiting beliefs I’ve held in the past. Plus has the added side-effect of massively reducing stress.
So how do we go about seeing ourselves differently? Is it simply a choice to do so or are there certain steps to take? Well, it’s a bit of both. The easiest way to begin is watch how you react when you come up against a challenging situation, and instead of running headlong down Emotional Avenue, stop for a minute to ask yourself what the significance of the situation is. Or in other words, what is the purpose of the interaction you’re having.
I’ll give you an example. Back when my 3 kids were small (and all under the age of 5) I was a little stressed – to say the least - but whenever I visited my parents, I noticed some thing my mother did (and still does) that was different to my own approach. You see, whenever my kids did something that drove me crazy she would just laugh. And here’s where I had a choice. In that instant, I could have:
(a) Reacted by becoming irritated with her categorically stating that it wasn’t funny.
(b) Reacted by becoming irritated, say nothing at the time, then take that irritation out on some poor unsuspecting human later.
(c) Rationalised that because she could hand them back, it was easy for her to find it all so funny.
(d) Or see the funny side myself.
I chose (d), the reason being that even though her perspective was different to mine, it was just as valid as my own, and therefore worth looking at. And you know what I realised? That if she could see the funny side, then something about the situation must be funny. And if it was funny for her, it could be funny for me too. Guess what happened next? Yup! I started laughing at my kids’ antics more than shouting at them, and that changed how I was as a parent.
So here’s your challenge. This week, take one situation in your life that’s getting on your nerves and choose to look for a different perspective on it. There are a few ways you can do this but the simplest is to sit quietly somewhere, close your eyes, then ask the wise part of yourself to show you what’s really going on. Once you see it, your next step is to ask yourself what you want to do about it.