This month on Soul to Soul Partnership we’re moving from our theme of Transmitting to a whole new theme of Receiving. Now if you followed along over the last two months, you’ll (hopefully 😉) be more aware of what and how you are sharing your thoughts and emotions with the people you meet each day but have you thought about what you may be receiving from them?
Over the next two months we’ll be looking at how we receive – and whether or not we do – and the imbalance that is created when we do all the giving but next to none of the receiving. Author and teacher Brene Brown put it very succinctly – and powerfully – when she said the following:
Until we can receive with an open heart, we are never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgement to giving help.
You see, the thing is, we all (ok maybe not all, let’s say most of us) want to be the ones doing the giving. Helping others feels good. It gives us a boost. But if we’re not receiving in equal measure, we end up creating a problem for both us and the ones we are giving to.
And that’s because giving and receiving are about balance. Like two kids on a see-saw, they work in tandem. So when we give to another then refuse to allow them to give to us in return - or make them feel bad for trying - we’re putting them in a pretty sticky situation. And by that, I mean that instead of allowing them to play their part on the Giving/Receiving see-saw, we’ve left them hanging up there in the air. The energy is completely unbalanced. And at some point, that energy will need to be rebalanced. Wouldn’t you rather let them do that instead of leaving them teetering on a not-so-comfortable see-saw?
Besides, giving is a joyful experience. It makes us smile. It makes us feel good. It makes us happy. So why deny others the same joy? Receiving from others allows that joy. Receiving from yourself works too! When was the last time you gave yourself something nice? A massage? A bubble bath? A new outfit? 10 minutes by yourself with a nice cup of tea?
What will you receive today?