It occurred to me recently that habits are like coats we don’t always know we’re wearing. They’re there and others can see them but to us they’re often invisible. Yes, there are some we’re aware of but there is a myriad of others we’re not conscious of yet they busily transmit themselves to those around us. Let me give you an example.
Say if Judgement is a habit of yours. Or maybe Impatience. (You may not see either as a habit, maybe you just see them as being ‘a part of who you are’, but essentially they’re habits!) How do you think these habits could affect others? How does your wearing of them support you and those around you? Does it? Even if the situation you’re in doesn’t call for Impatience or Judgement, the very fact that you’re wearing them still impacts others.And if they do, are you willing to change them for new habits?
Habits are limitations. They keep us safe. We develop them as a result of an emotional reaction we’ve had to a situation in our life. That reaction then leads to a belief, and then a new habit swoops in to try to save us from it. Say, for example, that you go into work one Monday and discover that a group of your friends have all been on a night out together – without you. Quite likely, you’ll have some kind of reaction. There could be a million reasons why it happened but chances are you’ve chosen to believe that it’s down to you. You’re not good enough. However you really don’t want to deal with this new belief so you create a new habit to keep you safe. You think to yourself Maybe if I keep to myself from now on or act standoffish to anyone who tries to get close, I’ll never have to feel that way again. And while that’s true, it also limits you. It doesn’t add to your happiness or to the happiness of those around you. So what to do next?
The easiest way to change a habit is to create a new one. Could be small, could be big but practising a new habit is the way forward.And how would you know what new habit to practise? Good question! Ask your Higher Self. Simply sit in a quiet place, close your eyes, connect to your heart and ask for the first step you can take in creating a new habit. Then practise it. Over and over and over again. Until that becomes a new habit that supports you.
What habit are you wearing today?